Am I a Parental Alienator? [QUIZ]

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1. Have you ever spoken negatively or criticized about the other parent or his/her family or friends in front of your child or where the child can hear you?
2. Have you ever forced your child to choose between loving the other parent and you?
3. Do you talk about child support, money, or legal issues in front of your child?
4. Do you ever limit time with the other parent because you feel you are the best parent?
5. Do you ask the child to keep secrets, lie or hide things from the other parent?
6. Do you pump your child to get detailed information of where they go and what they do when they are with the other parent?
7. Do you ever prevent the child from speaking with the other parent by blocking phone messages, not returning phone calls, erasing email messages, not giving them mail or gifts?
8. Do you interrupt the child’s time with the other parent by calling too much or planning activities during their time together?
9. Do you deny your child the right to spend the designated time with the other parent?
10. Have you ever sabotaged any activity that your child is doing with the other parent?
11. Do you encourage your child to blame the other parent or to choose sides?
12. Do you use your child as a therapist or your special friend to share your deep and upsetting emotions?
13. Do you let your child know that I feel badly when he/she has a good time with the other parent?
14. Do you ask your child to spy for you while with the other parent?
15. Do you ever instill guilt, pressure, or rejection of the other parent in your child?
16. Do you make a contest of how much love, care, and attention the child gives to the other parent and his or her family and friends versus how much attention you receive?
17. Have you ever made false accusations, such as implying drug abuse or inappropriate sexual behavior to the police or Department of Child and Family Services?
18. Do you stop your child from expressing his/her feelings whether you agree with them or not? (e.g., love, happiness, excitement, anger, fear, sadness)

If you answered “YES” to any of these concerns, you have to evaluate to exactly what degree you are participating in adult alienation. Children have to be totally free to love both moms and dads. If you do not like the other moms and dad or feel that they are improper for your child, you have to resolve the problem without turning to destroying that child’s relationship with this moms and dad. Your kid can make up his or her own mind about what does it cost? they love and even like the other moms and dad without being unduly influenced by you. Obsessed parent alienators will stop at absolutely nothing to damage or even severe a child’s relationship with a moms and dad. This is a severe type of kid abuse where a child is not permitted to have loving feelings for his parent, or his or her prolonged family and good friends. These people represent half of the child’s heritage. Most parents “mistake” occasionally, nevertheless, moms and dads who actually appreciate their child’s benefit will do all they can to keep their child from the middle and allow them to like both moms and dads.

The best parent is both parents.